Thursday, June 30, 2011

Mommy Time

Over the past few weeks I have been feeling a little trapped in this world of mine as Mommy and Wife.  I haven't worked in the better part of a year and my time has been filled with paying bills, chauffeuring kids, laundry, cleaning, cooking, laundry, worrying about money, sleep overs, laundry (we have 6 people in our home there is A LOT of laundry), mediating fights, fixing broken hearts, homework, the list goes on and on.  The only thing missing from my duties as a Mommy is the all important "me time".  So between yesterday and today I reached empty in my "gas tank". 

Our social worker was here today for her monthly visit and Mr. K and I were talking with her about my issues.  And she came up with new rules for our family.  She literally took my calendar off my wall and started writing days and time when I am "off". 

We brought out all of the kids, including the kid down the street who is here more than my kids are, and explained to them that Mommy has a "gas tank" and that it needs to be filled once a week.  All of the kids agreed that I sacrifice a lot for them and agreed that 5 hours a week for myself is acceptable for them.  They are not allowed to call, text, email, Facebook, or smoke signal me during that time.  They are also not to have their dad call me to ask me a question.  If they don't know the answer they can wait until I get home.

Now, I am sure that you are thinking, "5 hours to yourself - good for you - but, you still have to come home and prepare dinner".  To this I say "No Ma'am!"  My girls are to cook dinner for the family every Thursday that I am gone.  We will prepare a menu for the night and ensure that they have everything they need to prepare the meal ( I will keep some money in the cookie jar for pizza just in case).

So, beginning July 8th I will have 5 hours of uninterrupted "me time" every Thursday - now the big question will be What will I do with free time?????


Wednesday, March 16, 2011

My Kids

Last Friday my son (stepson if you want to get technical) Brett came home from his mom's house in Florida. He lived with her for the 1st 10years of his life, local to his dad and me.  When he was 10 she moved to Florida with her new husband and he stayed her in California with us.  Last summer he made the decision to move to Florida to be with her.  He comes to visit us when he is out of school on vacations.  So, he is here for his Spring Break and I couldn't be happier.

In August our family lost 1 kid (Brett) to Florida and gained 3 more (adoption).  During these past 7 months our family is finding its way.  Sometimes it is hard to stay on track with 3 teens/tweens that are new to the family.  The kids Omar 14, Maragarita 12, and Kalla 10, keep me busy being a mom and referee most days.  We feel like a family and all is well.  That is until Brett arrives, then we feel complete.  As soon as he sees the other kids it is as if he was only away at a friends house for over night.  I wish that his mom lived closer to us so that we could see him more frequent.  But for now we just have to enjoy the time that he have as a Complete Family while we can.


Sunday, March 6, 2011

Tea Time

Yesterday I had a wonderful time at tea with my best friend, Laura, and one of her childhood friends, Cathy.  It was a spure of the moment invite for me and let me tell you am I happy that I answered that phone call.

Laura and I have tea at The Eating Room, in Redlands CA, on a regular basis.  Martha Green has the most wondrful bakery and little restuarant.  And their tea- YUMMY!  This was Cathy's first visit at The Eating Room it was fun to see her reaction to the wonderful food.  Her 9 year old daughter is obssessed with tea parties.  She was able to get some great ideas for her daughter's next party.  Cathy lives 90 minutes away from Redlands and she wants to come down once a month to visit with Laura and me at The Eating Room.  I can't wait.

Thanks for making my Saturday a fun filled day!

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Plus Size Clothing

I am a Plus Size Woman.  I am not necessarily HAPPY about being a plus size woman but none the less I am. 

Today, one of my favorite blogs was hosting a giveaway for a free shirt from a new clothing company.  When I entered to win I looked at the company's website and saw that the largest size they have is a 10/12 XL - (yes, XL). And that got me to thinking!

I have always had a hard time finding clothing to fit, especially something more than a moo moo.  I do shop at Lane Bryant and Torrid but sometimes you want to wear oh I don't know maybe a shirt from a new company that is fresh and fun.  I see small cute women wearing outfits and t-shirts that I would LOVE to wear.  But, NOOOOO the companies who make the clothing don't want to sell to the more average sized women in America.

I just don't understand, how much more could it really cost to make clothes to fit more sizes!!!!!

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Broken Nose vs. Heaven

While talking to my 10year old daughter about why it would be better to get hit in the face with the piece of plastic dashboard covering her air bag vs. not having said air bag we had the following conversation:

"Mom, wouldn't it be safer to not have the air bag behind that plastic?"
"No, it will be better to get hit with the plastic than say, die."
"But, I might break my nose."
"Again, broken nose - better than death"
"But, I would be ugly with a broken nose"
"You would look worse dead and you can still play and have fun with a broken nose"
"I can still play an have fun in Heaven. When my spirit gets there, there are basketball courts, soccer, everything that we have that is fun here"
- How do you argue with that???????